When talking about game or gamble, we tend to focus on techniques rather than emotions. But in real cases, if kidnappers hate you, no matter how beneficial the environment is to you, you may still be killed.
For example, some people often make mistakes in kidnapping self-help training camps.
Many who attend these camps are senior executives in top 100 companies, sometimes they are too smart. They either court the kidnappers, or secretly ask their privacy. Once they hear some “miserable past”, they can be sadder than kidnappers.
That leads to a failure in the test. Training officer of the camp says that this is not empathy as those executives thought, but a showing of superiority.
How to avoid this?
Remember, you should be equal to kidnappers. You are the same.
The author of One Hundred Years of Solitude, Gabriel García Márquez, mentioned this in his work News of a Kidnapping:
After some time, the guards find out that they are the same with the hostages: they are kept here, no freedom. They don’t also know when the kidnapping is over. They are boring. So, the guards start to play cards, drink and watch games with hostages. Sometimes they would take hostages to a walk secretly. When Christmas is coming, they even have a Christmas party.
In 1974, Patty Hearst, the granddaughter of American publishing magnate William Randolph Hearst, was kidnapped by a left-wing terrorist group, the Symbionese Liberation Army. Not long after being kidnapped, she was touched by their ideas and promised to save poor people with the kidnappers.
Then, Patty went to a bank robbery in San Francisco with the terrorist group. According to her companions in the terrorist group, Patty liked shooting. She would shoot all her bullets out. Unfortunately, she never managed to hurt somebody.
19 months after her kidnapping, police found the base camp of the terrorist group. By that time, Patty was a fugitive anted for serious crimes committed with members of the group. With her family’s resources, Patty was trialed and sentenced 7 years in jail.
Patty claimed that she was threatened and brainwashed by the terrorist group. However, one important thing we can learn is that, making friends is important. With no friends or emotional bonds, you may lose your advantages. With friends, you can not only ensure your safety, but also to turnaround the situation.